Love and pain

It costs you establish a deep relationship with someone, but what's wish is to have a steady partner with whom to share your life and plan a future of two. But the single image as idyllic situation causes you fear, insecurity, you feel too vulnerable, afraid you suffer ... You know you have rooted love and pain in the same place?

Traumatic experiences mark our lives, whether we remember them or not know what caused the. Are known as "negative anchors": we see a painting that reminds us of a sad moment, or hear a song that transports us to another painful situation, even a perfume can make you remember someone who is no longer with us. Some are well marked and were triggered by situations we have very present: the loss of a loved one, abandonment, deception. There are others who do not remember and also have a powerful effect on how we act here and now.

Those who have gone through such experiences develop the ability to dissociate emotionally difficult situations that somehow or require our emotional engagement, and so we create the structure of our personality. We are successful in different areas of life, such as professional or academic, perhaps even popular with our friends or community we are, but we lack the tools to build a solid partner tools because we fear or panic suffer if we engage much love from someone, we have already experienced. We anchors that trigger unconscious level, so much so that to dissociate the idea of ​​pain that we cause a rupture or a deception if we give our heart to another person we are decoupling the possibility to fully fall in love. Our unconscious love and pain simultaneously anchored in at some point.

STEPS

What is the way back to a happy and fulfilling life? You've taken the first step, you've noticed, on a conscious level, what is happening.
The second step is to return to the previous situation that caused you might associate love and pain. I mean, remember how you were before when you were a kid or younger and did not have these conflicts? What you do is go back to that initial state of capacity to love, trust and fulfillment that at some point in your life you had and then you did the circumstances change. It is important to remember precisely what produced it done, moreover, may consider that it is one and perhaps the traumatic experience was one that you do not remember consciously, but your unconscious self.
So the aim is to recreate your ability to fully fall in love, you got inside you, intact, into a time in the past. I propose that tomorrow, just for one day, recrees your ability to surprise, to love, to trust you when you were a boy (or girl) .Only morning and one day, open your senses, believes, hopes, loves, dreams, laugh, enjoy ...

And share with me how you do